Wednesday, March 19, 2008

19 Hadith Rasullullah S.A.W Mengenai Wanita

1. Doa perempuan lebih makbul daripada lelaki kerana sifat penyayang yang lebih kuat daripada lelaki. Ketika ditanya kepada Rasulullah akan hal tersebut, jawab baginda, "Ibu lebih penyayang daripada bapa dan doa orang yang penyayang tidak akan sia-sia".
2. Apabila seseorang perempuan mengandung janin dalam rahimnya, maka beristighfarlah para malaikat untuknya. Allah mencatatkan baginya setiap hari dengan 1,000 kebajikan dan menghapuskan darinya 1,000 kejahatan.

3. Apabila seseorang perempuan mulai sakit hendak bersalin, maka Allah mencatatkan baginya pahala orang yang berjihad pada jalan Allah.

4. Apabila seseorang perempuan melahirkan anak, keluarlah dia dari dosa-dosa seperti keadaan ibunya melahirkannya.

5. Apabila telah lahir anak lalu disusui, maka bagi ibu itu setiap satu tegukan daripada susunya diberi satu kebajikan.

6. Apabila semalaman ibu tidak tidur dan memelihara anaknya yang sakit, maka Allah memberinya pahala seperti memerdekakan 70 hamba dengan ikhlas untuk membela agama Allah.

7. Barangsiapa yang menggembirakan anak perempuannya, darjatnya seumpama orang yang sentiasa menangis kerana takutkan Allah dan orang yang takutkan Allah,akan diharamkan api neraka ke atas tubuhnya.

8. Barangsiapa membawa hadiah, (barang makanan dari pasar ke rumah) lalu diberikan kepada keluarganya, maka pahalanya seperti bersedekah.Hendaklah mendahulukan anak perempuan daripada anak lelaki. Maka barangsiapa yang menyukakan anak perempuan seolah-olah dia memerdekakan anak Nabi Ismail.

9. Tiap perempuan yang menolong suaminya dalam urusan agama, maka Allah memasukkan dia ke dalam syurga lebih dahulu daripada suaminya(10,000 tahun).

10.Perempuan apabila sembahyang lima waktu, puasa bulan Ramadhan, memelihara kehormatannya serta taat akan suaminya, masuklah dia dari pintu syurga mana sahaja yang dikehendaki.

11.Wanita yang solehah (baik) itu lebih baik daripada 1,000 lelaki yang soleh.

12. Aisyah berkata, "Aku bertanya kepada Rasulullah, siapakah yang lebih besar haknya terhadap wanita? Jawab Rasulullah, "Suaminya. "Siapa pula berhak terhadap lelaki?" Jawab Rasulullah, "Ibunya".

13. Apabila memanggil akan engkau dua orang ibubapamu, maka jawablah panggilan ibumu dahulu.

14. Wanita yang taat akan suaminya, semua ikan-ikan di laut, burung diudara, malaikat di langit, matahari dan bulan semua beristighfar baginya selama mana dia taat kepada suaminya serta menjaga sembahyang dan puasanya.

15. Wanita yang taat berkhidmat kepada suaminya akan tertutup pintu-pintu neraka dan terbuka pintu-pintu syurga. Masuklah dari mana-mana pintu yang dia kehendaki dengan tidak dihisab.

16. Syurga itu di bawah tapak kaki ibu.

17. Wanita yang tinggal bersama anak-anaknya akantinggal bersama aku (Nabi s.a.w) di dalam syurga.

18. Barangsiapa mempunyai tiga anak perempuan atau tiga saudara perempuan atau dua anak perempuan atau dua saudara perempuan lalu dia bersikap ihsan dalam pergaulan dengan mereka dan mendidik mereka dengan penuh rasa takwa serta bertanggungjawab, maka baginya syurga.

19. Daripada Aisyah r.a. Barangsiapa yang diuji dengan sesuatu daripada anak-anak perempuannya, lalu dia berbuat baik kepada mereka, maka mereka akan menjadi penghalang baginya daripada api neraka.

"Jadi, janganlah sesekali kita merasa lemah. Wanitalah sebenarnya yang membuat seseorang lelaki itu kuat. Itulah salah satu sebab mengapa Nabi meletakkan wanita setaraf pada lelaki dan tidak lebih rendah".

Sunday, March 9, 2008

Touching story..

To my married and unmarried friends:

This is a very touching story, please read it slowly....

When You Divorce Me, Carry Me Out in Your Arms

On my wedding day, I carried my wife in my arms. The bridal car stopped in front of our one-room flat. My buddies insisted that I carry her out

of the car in my arms. So I carried her into our home. She was then plump and shy. I was a strong and happy bridegroom.

This was the scene ten years ago.

The following days were as simple as a cup of pure water: we had a kid; I went into business and tried to make more money. When the assets were

steadily increasing, the affection between us seemed to ebb. She was a civil servant. Every morning we left home together and got home almost at

the same time. Our kid was studying in a boarding school.

Our marriage life seemed to be enviably happy. But the calm life was more likely to be affected by unpredictable changes.


Dew came into my life.

It was a sunny day. I stood on a spacious balcony. Dew hugged me from behind. My heart once again was immersed in her stream of love. This was

the apartment I bought for her.

Dew said, you are the kind of man who best draws girls' eyeballs. Her words suddenly reminded me of my wife. When we were just married, my wife

said, Men like you, once successful, will be very attractive to girls.

Thinking of this, I became somewhat hesitant. I knew I had betrayed my wife. But I couldn't help doing so.

I moved Dew's hands aside and said you go to select some furniture, O.K.? I've got something to do in the company. Obviously she was unhappy,

because I had promised to do it together with her. At the moment, the idea of divorce became clearer in my mind although it used to be something

impossible to me.

However, I found it rather difficult to tell my wife about it. No matter how mildly I mentioned it to her, she would be deeply hurt.

Honestly, she was a good wife. Every evening she was busy preparing dinner. I was sitting in front of the TV. The dinner was ready soon. Then we

watched TV together. Or, I was lounging before the computer, visualizing Dew's body. This was the means of my entertainment.

One day I said to her in a slightly joking way, suppose we divorce, what will you do? She stared at me for a few seconds without a word.

Apparently she believed that divorce was something too far away from her. I couldn't imagine how she would react once she got to know I was

serious.

When my wife went to my office, Dew had just stepped out. Almost all the staff looked at my wife with a sympathetic eye and tried to hide

something while talking to her. She seemed to have got some hint. She gently smiled at my subordinates. But I read some hurt in her eyes.

Once again, Dew said to me, He Ning, divorce her, O.K.? Then we live together. I nodded. I knew I could not hesitate any more.

When my wife served the last dish, I held her hand. I've got something to tell you, I said. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the

hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the

serious topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I'm serious. I avoided her question. This so-called answer made her

angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly

give her a satisfactory answer, because my heart had gone to Dew.

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She

glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. I felt a pain in my heart. The woman who had been living ten years with me would become a stranger

one day. But I could not take back what I had said.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce

which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer.

Late that night, I came back home after entertaining my clients. I saw her writing something at the table. I fall asleep fast. When I woke up, I

found she was still there. I turned over and was asleep again.

She brought up her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but I was supposed to give her one month s time before divorce, and in

the month's time we must live as normal a life as possible. Her reason was simple: our son would finish his summer vacation a month later and

she didn't want him to see our marriage was broken.

She passed me the agreement she drafted, and then asked me, He Ning, do you still remember how I entered our bridal room on the wedding day?

This question suddenly brought back all those wonderful memories to me. I nodded and said, I remember. You carried me in your arms, she

continued, so, I have a requirement, that is, you carry me out in your arms on the day when we divorce. From now to the end of this month, you

must carry me out from the bedroom to the door every morning.

I accepted with a smile. I knew she missed those sweet days and wished to end her marriage romantically.

I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she does, she has to face the

result of divorce, she said scornfully. Her words more or less made me feel uncomfortable.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. We even treated each other as a stranger. So when

I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me

a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and

said softly, Let us start from today, don't tell our son. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait

for a bus, I drove to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. We were so close that I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I

realized that I hadn't looked at this intimate woman carefully for a long time. I found she was not young any more. There were some fine

wrinkles on her face.

On the third day, she whispered to me, the outside garden is being demolished. Be careful when you pass there.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I seemed to feel that we were still an intimate couple and I was holding my sweetheart in my arms. The

visualization of Dew became vague.

On the fifth and sixth day, she kept reminding me something, such as, where she put the ironed shirts, I should be careful while cooking, etc. I

nodded. The sense of intimacy was even stronger. I didn't tell Dew about this.

I felt it was easier to carry her. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. I said to her, It seems not difficult to carry you now. She

was picking her dresses. I was waiting to carry her out. She tried quite a few but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my

dresses have grown bigger. I smiled. But I suddenly realized that it was because she was thinner that I could carry her more easily, not because

I was stronger. I knew she had buried all the bitterness in her heart. Again, I felt a sense of pain. Subconsciously I reached out a hand to

touch her head.

Our son came in at the moment. Dad, it's time to carry mum out. He said. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had been an essential

part of his life. She gestured our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face because I was afraid I would change my mind at

the last minute. I held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly

and naturally. I held her body tightly, as if we came back to our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. She said, actually I hope you will hold me

in your arms until we are old.

I held her tightly and said, both you and I didn't notice that our life lacked intimacy.

I jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my decision. I walked upstairs. Dew opened

the door. I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I won't divorce. I'm serious.

She looked at me, astonished. The she touched my forehead. You got no fever. She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I can

only say sorry to you, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of life, not because we

didn't love each other any more. Now I understand that since I carried her into the home, she gave birth to our child, I am supposed to hold her

until I am old. So I have to say sorry to you.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove to the

office.

When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my wife which was her favorite. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the

card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until we are old.

The best Moment

1. Falling in love.
2. Laughing till your stomach hurts.
3. Enjoying a ride down the ocuntry side.
4. Listening to your favorite song on the radio.
5. Going to sleep listening to the rain pouring outside.
6. Getting out of the shower and wrapping yourself with a warm, fuzzy towel.
7. Passing your final exams with good grades.
8. Being part of an interesting conversation.
9. Finding some money in some old pants.
10. Laughing at yourself.
11. Sharing a wonderful dinner with all your friends.
12. Laughing without a reason.
13. "Accidentally" hearing someone say somthing good about you.
14. Watching the sunset.
15. Listening to a song that reminds you of an important person in your life.
16. Receiving or giving your first kiss.
17. Feeling this movement in your body when seeing this "special" someone.
18. Having a great time with your friends.
19. Seeing the one you love happy.
20. Wearing the shirt of a person you love and smelling his/her perfume.
21. Visiting an old friend of yours and remembering great memories.
22. Hearing some telling you "I LOVE YOU"

"True friends come in the good times when we tell hem to, and come in the bad times.....without calling."

Awak

Awak, hari ni awak call saya,

Tapi saya endah x endah jer,

Padahal dalam hati nak bagitau semua orang..

Awak, hari ni saya jumpa awak,

Tapi saya buat bodoh jer,

Dalam hati rasa nak peluk jer..

Awak, hari ni kita keluar,

Tapi saya ajak kawan saya,

Padahal dalam hati nak berdua dengan awak jer..

Awak, hari ni awak datang tempat saya,

Tapi saya buat x nampak jer,

Padahal hati bagai nak pecah berdebar sebabkan awak..

Awak, hari ni awak senyum dengan saya,

Tapi saya buat2 tak nampak
Padahal nak elak dari pengsan..

Awak, hari ni awak duduk sebelah saya,

Tapi rasa macam jauh jer,

Padahal tak sampai sedepa..

Awak, hari ni saya ajak awak keluar,

Tapi dengan alasan suruh awak temankan cari barang,

Padahal saya nak sangat tengok muka awak..

Awak, hari ni awak kata nak pergi jauh,

Tapi saya diam jer,

Padahal dalam hati nak nangis sebab xjumpa awak lagi..

Awak, hari ni awak call saya lagi,

Tapi saya buat x tau jer,

Padahal hati saya da nangis rindukan awak..

Awak, tiap hari awak call saya,

Tapi saya layan biasa jer,

Padahal saya nak jerit biar orang tau awak x lupakan saya..

Awak, awak da x call saya,

Saya nak call awak, tapi saya ego,

Padahal dah lebih 100 kali nombor awak saya tekan..

Awak, hari ni awak kata awak dah ada pasangan,

Dengan happy saya wish congrats dengan awak,

Padahal hati saya remuk dengar berita tu...

Awak, hari ni saya tgk gambar kita senyum,
Tapi gambar tinggal gambar,
Nak buang sayang, nak simpan sedih..

Awak, semoga satu hari nanti,
Saya menginsafi diri,
Tak nak ada ego tinggi lagi,
Buat sakit hati..

Awak, sebelum pergi hari ni..kat sini
saya janji...semua ni untuk awak
Sebab kenal awak anugerah terindah penah saya miliki.
terima kasih awak...
Maaf sebab saya tak penah ckp yg saya sebenarnya suka kat awak..

I am...

I am…
I am a daughter, a sister, a grand-daughter, a niece, a cousin, a friend.
I am a partner, a student, a young girl, and a grown woman.
I am confident and scared, terrified and excited.
I am loving and caring and thoughtful and hopeful.
I am sick and tired.
I am shy and friendly, and careful and careless.
I am broken and whole.
I am misunderstood, misguided and mislead.
I am hard working and determined but a little scared on the inside.
I wish on the stars and dream my dreams.
I pray to god and cry my tears.
I smile on the outside, while I’m dying on the inside.
I listen to others who won’t listen to me.
I walk on eggshells and I walk on fire.
I believe in passion, but not true love.
I love you and I push you away.
I want you but not so close.
I am everything and nothing all at once.
And all I want is for you to LOVE ME.

Saturday, March 8, 2008

ARE YOU IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE?


When you are together with that special someone, you
pretend to ignore that person. But when that special
someone is not around, you might look around to find
them. At that moment, you are in love!

Although there is someone else who always makes you
laugh, your eyes and attention might go only to that
special someone. Then, you are in love!

Although that special someone was supposed to have
called you long back, to let you know of their safe arrival,
your phone is quiet. You are desperately waiting for the
call!! At the moment, you are in love!

If you are much more excited for one short e-mail from
that special someone tha other many long e-mail, you are
in love!

When you find yourself as one who cannot erase all the
messages in your answering machine because of one
message from that special someone, you are in love!

When you get a couple of free movie tickets, you would
not hesitate to think of that special someone. Then, you
are in love!

You keep telling yourselI "that special someone is just a friend" but you realize that you can not avoid that person's special attraction. At that moment, you are in
love!

While you are reading this page, if someone appears in
your mind, then U are in love with that person!!!!

Petanda Jodoh

Dua manusia yang merasa saling berjodoh pasti memiliki ikatan emosional, spiritual dan fizikal antara keduanya.
Hanya dengan menatap mata atau mendengar suaranya, kita akan merasakan getaran dan seolah ingin terus bersamanya. Benarkah seperti itu? Lalu, apakah ada petanda lainnya agar seseorang dapat merasakan bahawa si dia jodoh (soulmate) kita atau bukan?

Petanda 1
Rahsia sepasang kekasih agar dapat memiliki usia hubungan yang panjang adalah dengan adanya saling kerjasama. Kamu dan dia selalu dapat saling membantu, dalam urusan remeh atau
besar. Paling penting adalah kamu berdua selalu dapat melalui segala aspek kehidupan secara bersama-sama. Dan semuanya terasa amat menyenangkan meskipun tanpa harus melibatkan orang lain. Apakah kamu sudah merasakan perkara tersebut? Jika ya, selamat... kerana ada harapan bahawa dia adalah calon
pendamping hidup kamu!

Petanda 2
Salah satu kriteria yang menentukan sesuai atau tidaknya dia sebagai jodoh kamu atau bukan adalah kemampuannya bersikap bersahaja di depan kamu. Cuba sekarang perhatikan, apakah gerak-gerinya, caranya berpakaian, gaya rambutnya, caranya berbicara serta tertawanya mengesankan apa adanya? Apakah setiap ucapannya selalu tampak spontan dan tidak dibuat-buat? Jika tidak, (maaf) kemungkinan besar dia bukan jodoh kamu!

Petanda 3
Adanya deria batiniah membuat hati kamu berdua dapat selalu saling tahu. Dan bila kamu atau si dia dapat saling membaca fikiran dan menduga reaksi serta perasaannya satu sama lainnya pada situasi tertentu. Selamat! Sebenarnya dialah destini kebahagian kamu...

Petanda 4
Bersamanya dapat membuat perasaan kamu menjadi tenang, selesa dan tanpa perasaan tertekan. Berjam-jam bersamanya, setiap waktu dan setiap hari tanpa membuat kamu merasa bosan... Inilah petanda bahawa kamu berdua kelak akan saling terikat.

Petanda 5
Dia selalu ada untuk kamu dalam situasi apapun. Dan dia selalu dapat memahami situasi dalam hati kamu baik dalam suka dan duka. Percayalah pasangan yang berjodoh pasti tak takut
mengalami pasang-surut, suka-duka saat bersama. Sekarang, ingat-ingat kembali. Apakah dia orang pertama yang datang memberi bantuan tatkala kamu dirundung musibah? Dia selalu faham saat emosi kamu terganggu? Dia tahu keadaan waktu anda sakit? Jika ya, tak salah lagi. Dialah orangnya...

Petanda 6
Dia tak terlalu peduli dengan masa lalu keluarga kamu, dia tak peduli dengan masa lalu kamu saat bersama kekasih terdahulu. Dia juga tak malu-malu menceritakan masa lalunya... Nah, kalau begitu ini bisa berarti dia sudah siap menerima kamu apa adanya..

Petanda 7
Setiap orang pasti memiliki kekurangan, dan kamu tak malu-malu memperlihatkannya pada si dia. Bahkan pada saat kamu tampil buruk di depannya sekalipun, misalnya saat kamu bangun tidur atau saat kamu sakit dan tak mandi selama dua hari. Ataupun menceritakan sejujurnya kepada kamu tentang kelemahan dan kekurangannya... Nah! Kamu dan dia memangnya disuratkan untuk bersama!

Petanda 8
Bila merasa rahsia kamu bisa lebih selamat di tangannya daripada di tangan sahabat-sahabat kamu yang lain. Atau kamu merasa sudah tak dapat lagi menyimpan rahsia apapun darinya, maka berbahagialah! Kerana ini bererti pasangan sejati telah kamu temukan!

love is ...... loving you forever

Love is the greatest feeling,
Love is like a play,
Love is what I feel for you,
Each and every day,

Love is like a smile,
Love is like a song,
Love is a great emotion,
That keeps us going strong,
I love you with my heart,
My body and my soul,
I love the way I keep loving,
Like a love I cant control,

So remember when your eyes meet mine,
I love you with all my heart,
And I have poured my entire soul into you,
Right from the very start.

I love you so deeply,
I love you so much,
I love the sound of your voice
And the way that we touch.

I love your warm smile
And your kind, thoughtful way,
The joy that you bring
To my life every day.

I love you today
As I have from the start,
And Ill love you forever
With all of my heart.

Gadisku

Gadisku.
Sesungguhnya kejadianmu terlalu unik,
tercipta dari tulang rusuk Adam yang bengkok
menghiasai taman-taman indah lantas menjadi
perhatian sang kumbang.Kau umpama sekuntum bunga ,
harum aromamu bisa menarik perhatian sang kumbang
untuk mendekatimu namun...... tidak semua bunga
senang untuk didekati oleh sang kumbang lantaran
duri yang memagari dirinya umpama mawar ,
dari kejauhan sudah terhidu akan keharumannya
serta kilauan warnanya yang memancar indah mengundang
kekaguman terhadap sang kumbang ....... tapi awas
duri yang melingkari bisa membuatkan sang kumbang
berfikir beberapa kali untuk mendekatinya......
Gadisku....
Aku suka sekiranya kau seperti mawar
aspirasi setiap mujahidah.Bentengilah dirimu
dengan perasaan malu yang bertunjangkan rasa
keimanan dan keindahan taqwa kepada Allah...
Hiasilah wajah mu dengan titisan wudhuk .....
ingatlah bahawa ciri-ciri seorang wanita solehah
ialah ia tidak melihat kepada lelaki dan lelaki
tidak melihat kepadanya.Sesuatu yang tertutup itu
lebih berharga jika dibandingkan dengan sesuatu
yang terdedah ...... umpama sebutir permata yang
didedahkan buat perhatian umum dengan permata yang
diletakkan dalam satu bekas yang tertutup .....
sudah pasti nya keinginan untuk melihat permata
yang tersembunyi itu melebihi daripada yang terdedah ,
wanita solehah yang taat dan patuh pada
Al Khaliq dalam melayari liku-liku kehidupannya
adlah harapan setiap insan yang bernama Adam......
Namun ............. ianya memerlukan pergobanan
dan mujahadah yang tinggi kerana ianya bercanggah
dengan nafsu serakah yang bersarang dalam dirimu
lebih-lebih lagi title gadis yang kau miliki sudah
pastinya darah mudamu mecabar rasa keimanan yang ada ...
Namun ingatlah gadisku....sesiapa yang inginkan
kebaikan maka Allah akan memudahkan baginya
jalan-jalan kearah itu, yang penting gadisku
engkau mesti punyai azam , usaha dan istiqomah..........
Gadisku ....
Akuilah hakikat dirimu menjadi fitnah
kepada kebanyakan lelaki...Seandainya pakaian malumu
kau tanggalkan dari tubuhmu maka sudah tidak ada lagi
perisai yang dapat membentingimu...Sesungguhnya nabi
ada mengatakan tentang bahaya dirimu " Tidak ada suatu
fitnah yang lebih besar yang lebih bermaharajalela
selpas wafatku terhadap kaum lelaki selain fitnah
yang berpunca daripada wanita"....
Oleh itu gadisku setiap langkah dan tindakanmu
hendaklah berpaksikan kepada Al Quran dan As Sunnah, jangan
biarkan orang lain mengeksploitasikan dirimu untuk
kepentingan tertentu.....Sesungguhnya Allah telah
mengangkat martabatmu sebaris dengan kaum Adam...
Kau harapan ummah dalam melahirkan para mujahid dan
mujahidah yang bisa menggoncangkan dunia dengan
sentuhan lembut tangan mu.....
Gadisku...
Dalam hidupmu pastinya ingin disayangi
dan menyayangi, itulah fitrah semulajadi setiap insani
namun ramai diantara kamu yang tewas kerana cinta ...
Bercinta itu tidak salah tapi memuja cinta itu yang
salah , kerana cinta manusia sanggup menjual agama dan kerana
cinta maruah tergadai.Gejala murtad serta keruntuhan
moral muda mudi sebahgian besarnya kerana sebuah cinta...
Benarlah sabda Rasulullah SAW "Sesungguhnya cinta itu buta"
cinta itu mampu membutakan mata dan hatimu dalam
membezakan perkara yang hak dan yang batil apabila kau
meletakkan
cinta itu atas dasar nafsu dan tidak kerana Allah SWT ...
Sebelum kau mendekati cinta , cintailah dirimu terlebih dahulu,
mengkaji hakikat kejadianmu yang begitu simbolik ,
yang berasal daripada setitis air yang tak berharga lalu
mengalami proses pembentukan yang direncanakan oleh Allah ..
Semoga disana mampu melahirkan rasa keagungan dan kehebatan
terhadapNya dan timbul rasa cinta dan kasih pada
penciptamu............
Gadisku......
Mencintai Allah dan rasul melebihi cinta
terhadap makhluk adalah cinta yang hakiki dan abadi
kerana hati yang pecah dan retak apabila diberikan
kepada makhluk pastinya akan bertambah retak dan terburai
tapi apabila hatimu diserah kepada Allah sudah pasti ia
akan bertaut kembali.. Dalam seusia mu sibukkan lah dirimu
dengan ilmu yang mampu mempertajamkan akal dan mampu
membina syakhsiah muslimahmu..... Sesungguhnya ilmu
itu cahaya dan ilmu tidak mampu bertapak dalam hati orang
yang melakukan maksiat.Buat akhirnya terimalah kata-kata
seorang ahli sufii iaitu Rabiatul Adawiah sebagai renungan
bersama : "Cintakan manusia itu tidak mewujudkan kebahagian
yang abadi untuk seseorang insan , kerana ia tidak kekal ,
cintakan manusia seringkali membuatkan seorang itu gagal ,
kecewa ,
menderita dan terseksa, oleh itu tidak ada suatu cinta pun yang
dapat membuahkan kebahagiaan dan kenikmatan yang kekal abadi
kecuali
cinta kepada pencipta manusia sendiri"
Sekian.....
Hiasilah Diri Kita Dengan KEIMANAN Bukan Dengan
KEEGOAN.
Hiasi Diri Dengan Iman dan Takwa...

Never say I Love You if you don’t really care, Never talk of feeling if there aren’t really there, Never hold my hand if you mean break my heart, Never say forever if you plan to part, Never look into my eyes if you are telling me a lie, Never say hello if you will say goodbye, Never say I’m the one if you dream of more than me, Never lock my heart if you don’t have a key.

FURTHER INFORMATION ABOUT THE 20 POINTS SAFEGUARDs FOR SABAH

The 20 points safeguards

1.Religion
While there was no objection to Islam being the national religion of Malaysia there should be no State religion in North Borneo, and the provisions relating to Islam in the present Constitution of Malaya should not apply to North Borneo

2.Language
a. Malay should be the national language of the Federation
b. English should continue to be used for a period of 10 years after Malaysia Day
c. English should be an official language of North Borneo for all purposes, State or Federal, without limitation of time.

3. Constitution
Whilst accepting that the present Constitution of the Federation of Malaya should form the basis of the Constitution of Malaysia, the Constitution of Malaysia should be a completely new document drafted and agreed in the light of a free association of states and should not be a series of amendments to a Constitution drafted and agreed by different states in totally different circumstances. A new Constitution for North Borneo (Sabah) was of course essential.

4. Head of Federation
The Head of State in North Borneo should not be eligible for election as Head of the Federation

5. Name of Federation
“Malaysia” but not “Melayu Raya”

6. Immigration
Control over immigration into any part of Malaysia from outside should rest with the Central Government but entry into North Borneo should also require the approval of the State Government. The Federal Government should not be able to veto the entry of persons into North Borneo for State Government purposes except on strictly security grounds. North Borneo should have unfettered control over the movements of persons other than those in Federal Government employ from other parts of Malaysia into North Borneo.

7. Right of Secession
There should be no right to secede from the Federation

8. Borneanisation Borneanisation of the public service should proceed as quickly as possible.

9. British Officers
Every effort should be made to encourage British Officers to remain in the public service until their places can be taken by suitably qualified people from North Borneo

10. Citizenship
The recommendation in paragraph 148(k) of the Report of the Cobbold Commission should govern the citizenship rights in the Federation of North Borneo subject to the following amendments:
a) sub-paragraph (i) should not contain the proviso as to five years residence
b) in order to tie up with our law, sub-paragraph (ii)(a) should read “7 out of 10 years” instead of “8 out of 10 years”
c) sub-paragraph (iii) should not contain any restriction tied to the citizenship of parents – a person born in North Borneo after Malaysia must be federal citizen.

11. Tariffs and Finance
North Borneo should retain control of its own finance, development and tariff, and should have the right to work up its own taxation and to raise loans on its own credit.

12. Special position of indigenous races
In principle, the indigenous races of North Borneo should enjoy special rights analogous to those enjoyed by Malays in Malaya, but the present Malays’ formula in this regard is not necessarily applicable in North Borneo

13. State Government
a) the Prime Minister should be elected by unofficial members of Legislative Council
b) There should be a proper Ministerial system in North Borneo

14. Transitional period
This should be seven years and during such period legislative power must be left with the State of North Borneo by the Constitution and not be merely delegated to the State Government by the Federal Government

15. Education
The existing educational system of North Borneo should be maintained and for this reason it should be under state control

16. Constitutional Safeguards
No amendment modification or withdrawal of any special safeguard granted to North Borneo should be made by the Central Government without the positive concurrence of the Government of the State of North Borneo

The power of amending the Constitution of the State of North Borneo should belong exclusively to the people in the state. (Note: The United Party, The Democratic Party and the Pasok Momogun Party considered that a three-fourth majority would be required in order to effect any amendment to the Federal and State Constitutions whereas the UNKO and USNO considered a two-thirds majority would be sufficient)

17. Representation in Federal Parliament
This should take account not only of the population of North Borneo but also of its seize and potentialities and in any case should not be less than that of Singapore

18. Name of Head of State
Yang di-Pertua Negara

19. Name of State
Sabah

20. Land, Forests, Local Government, etc.
The provisions in the Constitution of the Federation in respect of the powers of the National Land Council should not apply in North Borneo. Likewise, the National Council for Local Government should not apply in North Borneo.

Sarawak presented a paper as well to the IGC (Inter-Governmental Committee) containing 18 points. The Sarawak 18 points were similar to the Sabah 20 points, but were on a couple of importantly different.

1. Language
The Sarawak paper contained no request corresponding to that of the USNO party’s request that Malay should be an Official Language together with English

2. Head of State
Sarawak requested that the Head of State be chosen from any of the indigenous ethnic groups in Sarawak, but the method of choice would be discussed further. The Sabah paper did not mention this which now strange. The Sabah paper only stipulated that the name of Sabah’s Head of State be the Yang di-Pertua Negara

3. Immigration
The Sabah paper asked explicitly asked that Sabah should have unfettered control over the movement of persons, other than those in Federal Government employ, from other parts of Malaysia into Sabah. This requirement was not included in the Sarawak paper, which explicitly refers only to immigration control seemed better thought through.

4. Borneanisation
The Sarawak paper was explicit in its reservation that federal posts in Sarawak should be filled by Sarawak-born citizens.

5. Citizenship
Both Sabah and Sarawak requested that the period of residence for registration as a citizen of Malaysia during the first eight years after Malaysia be reduced from eight years out of twelve to seven years out of ten. The Sabah paper added two further points, namely the deletion of the requirement of five years’ residence immediately before Malaysia for a citizen of the United Kingdom and colonies, born or naturalized, to become a citizen of Malaysia, and deletion of the requirement that after the formation of Malaysia persons in both Sabah and Sarawak should only be citizens by operation of law if one of their parents was a citizen or a permanent resident.

6. Finance
The Sabah paper asked for control of its own finances, development and tariff. The Sarawak paper only asked for three assurances; a development fund, a formula ensuring adequate revenue to the State and gradual increase of taxation to Malayan levels.

7. Representation in the Federal Parliament
The Sarawak paper accepted that the term of the 13th schedule of the Constitution of Malaya should govern the assessment of representation in the Federal Parliament. The Sabah paper, however, avoided any reference to the provisions of the Malayan constitution and asked explicitly that the size and potentiality of Sabah should be taken into account and that in any case Sabah’s representation should not be less than Singapore’s. The Sarawak paper added the requirement for adequate ministerial representation at both the higher and lower levels to provide for Sarawak’s interests in the Federal Government

8. State Government
The Sarawak paper requested a Chief Minister and a membership system. The Sabah paper asked for a Prime Minister and a proper ministerial system

9. Transitional Period
The Sarawak paper asked that this should be from three to five years and during this period federal powers should be delegated to Sarawak as a State by agreement. The Sabah paper asked for a seven year transitional period, and that during such period legislative power should be left with the State by the constitution and not merely delegated by the Federal Government

10. Education
The Sarawak paper asked that provision should be made to safeguard the Sarawak National Education Policy for the future. The Sabah paper asked that the existing educational system of Sabah should be maintained, and for this reason it should be under State control.

hurt...

so many times i ask my self..
'am i though enough with all the challange that happen in my life?'
but everytime also i never find the right answer..
but for now,i tried to live happily with the choices that been chosen for my life..
the choices that have been choose by me,is that what i want??..
NO..i never dream to live like that...
but i desperate to chose it cause i dont want anymore any pain in my life..
that's enough bout the pain that been happen in my life..
it's really hurt..
cause everytime i see the hurt in my heart,it's bleeding back like 1st it's happen..
so many unfair,pain in my life...
everything's just keep in my heart until i don't know to describe it..
so many year's it's happen..
so many year's also i live with my all pain without any medicine,any caring from the person that i hope can share it with me..
when i fall's with all the pain,somebody ever told me,a friend that never seen,but always share a pain..
'dont give up with all the things that happen in ur life,u just give them a trophy when they see u falls..
prove to them,u can live without them,u can make a better life without them..
stop crying and regret all the pain in ur heart..'
yes i want to,but the pain is really hurt..
really hard to forget although i laugh in my days,but crying in the night..
i dont know when can i forget all the pain and live without it..

ORANG YANG MENCINTAI KAMU

1] Orang yang mencintai kamu tidak pernah mampu memberikan alasan kenapa dia mencintai kamu. Yang dia tahu di hati dan matanya hanya ada kamu satu-satunya.

2] Walaupun kamu sudah memiliki teman istimewa atau kekasih, dia tidak perduli! Baginya yang penting kamu bahagia dan kamu tetap menjadi impiannya.

3] Orang yang mencintai kamu selalu menerima kamu apa adanya, di hati dan matanya kamu selalu yang tercantik walaupun mungkin kamu merasa berat badan kamu sudah bertambah.

4] Orang yang mencintai kamu selalu ingin tahu tentang apa saja yang kamu lalui sepanjang hari ini, dia ingin tahu kegiatan kamu.

5] Orang yang mencintai kamu akan mengirimkan SMS seperti 'selalmat pagi','selamat hari minggu', 'selamat tidur', 'take care', dan lain-lain lagi, walaupun kamu tidak membalas SMS-nya, kerana dengan kiriman SMS itu lah dia menyatakan cintanya, menyatakan dalam cara yang berbeda, bukan "aku CINTA padamu", tapi berselindung ayat selain kata cinta itu.

6] Jika kamu menyambut hari tahun dan kamu tidak mengundangnya ke majlis yang kamu adakan, setidak-tidaknya dia akan menelefon untuk mengucapkan selamat atau mengirim SMS.

7] Orang yang mencintai kamu akan selalu mengingat setiap kejadian yang dia lalui bersama kamu, bahkan mungkin kejadian yang kamu sendiri sudah melupakannya, kerana saat itu ialah sesuatu yang berharga untuknya. dan saat itu, matanya pasti berkaca. kerana saat bersamamu itu tidak bisa berulang selalu.

8] Orang yang mencintai kamu selalu mengingati setiap kata-kata yang kamu ucapkan, bahkan mungkin kata-kata yang kamu sendiri lupa pernah mengungkapkannya. kerana dia menyematkan kata-kata mu di hatinya, berapa banyak kata-kata penuh harapan yang kau tuturkan padanya, dan akhirnya kau musnahkan? pasti kau lupa, tetapi bukan orang yang mencintai kamu.

9] Orang yang mencintai kamu akan belajar menggemari lagu-lagu kegemaran kamu, bahkan mungkin meminjam CD milik kamu, kerana dia ingin tahu apa kgemaran kamu - kesukaan kamu kesukaannya juga, walaupun sukar meminati kesukaan kamu, tapi akhirnya da berjaya.

10] Kalau kali terakhir kalian bertemu kamu mungkin sedang selesema, atau batuk-batuk, dia akan sentiasa mengirim SMS atau menelefon untuk bertanya keadaan kamu - kerana dia bimbangkan tentang kamu, peduli tentang kamu.

11] Jika kamu mengatakan akan menghadapi ujian, dia akan menanyakan bila ujian itu berlangsung, dan saat harinya tiba dia akan mengirimkan SMS 'good luck' untuk memberi semangat kepada kamu.

12] Orang yang mencintai kamu akan memberikan suatu barang miliknya yang mungkin buat kamu itu ialah sesuatu yang biasa, tetapi baginya barang itu sangat istimewa.

13] Orang yang mencintai kamu akan terdiam sesaat, ketika sedang bercakap di telefon dengan kamu, sehingga kamu menjadi bingung. Sebenarnya saat itu dia merasa sangat gugup kerana kamu telah menggegarkan dunianya.

14] Orang yang mencintai kamu selalu ingin berada di dekat kamu dan ingin menghabiskan hari-harinya hanya dengan kamu.

15] Jika suatu saat kamu harus pindah ke daerah lain, dia akan sentiasa memberikan nasihat agar kamu waspada dengan persekitaran yang boleh membawa pengaruh buruk kepada kamu. dan jauh dihatinya dia benar-benar takut kehilangan kamu, pernah dengar 'jauh dimata, jauh dihati?'

16] Orang yang mencintai kamu bertindak lebih seperti saudara daripada seperti seorang kekasih.

17] Orang yang mencintai kamu sering melakukan hal-hal yang SENGAL seperti menelefon kamu 100 kali dalam masa sehari. Atau mengejutkan kamu di tengah malam dengan mengirim SMS. Sebenarnya ketika itu dia sedang memikirkan kamu.

18] Orang yang mencintai kamu kadang-kadang merindukan kamu dan melakukan hal-hal yang membuat kamu pening kepala. Namun ketika kamu mengatakan tindakannya itu membuat kamu terganggu dia akan minta maaf dan tak akan melakukannya lagi.

19] Jika kamu memintanya untuk mengajarimu sesuatu maka ia akan mengajarimu dgn sabar walaupun kamu mungkin orang yang terbodoh di dunia!. bahkan dia begitu gembira kerana dapat membantu kamu. dia tidak pernah mengelak dari menunaikan permintaan kamu walau sesukar mana permintaan mu.

20.Kalau kamu melihat handphone-nya maka nama kamu akan menghiasi sebahagian besar INBOX-nya. Dia masih menyimpan SMS-SMS dari kamu walaupun ia kamu kirim berbulan-bulan atau bertahun-tahun yang lalu. Dia juga menyimpan surat-surat kamu di tempat khas dan segala pemberian kamu menjadi benda-benda berharga buatnya.

21] Dan jika kamu cuba menjauhkan diri daripadanya atau memberi reaksi menolaknya, dia akan menyedarinya dan menghilang dari kehidupan kamu, walaupun hal itu membunuh hatinya.

22] Jika suatu saat kamu merindukannya dan ingin memberinya kesempatan dia akan ada menunggu kamu kerana sebenarnya dia tak pernah mencari orang lain. Dia sentiasa menunggu kamu.

23] Orang yang begitu mencintaimu, tidak pernah memaksa kamu memberinya sebab dan alasan, walaupun hatinya meronta ingin mengetahui, kerana dia tidak mahu kamu terbeban dengan karenahnya. saat kau pinta dia berlalu, dia pergi tanpa menyalahkan kamu, kerana dia benar-benar mengerti apa itu cinta.

[ Pernah adakah orang yang berbuat seperti di atas kepada kamu?

unperfect

I may not a perfect girl.

My hair doesn’t always stay in place & I spill things a lot.

I’m pretty clumsy & sometimes I have a broken heart.

My friends & I sometimes fight & maybe some days nothing goes right.

But when I think about it & take a step back I remember how amazing life truly is & that maybe.

Just maybe.

I like being unperfect.